As you’ve been reading this, you may have thought of some areas of your life where you aren’t feeling as powerful or positive as you would like. I invite you to practice self-directed neuro-plasticity and rewire your brain’s default way of responding by working through each of the following 5 steps which comprise my S.O.A.R2 Model for behavior change and resilience building (the basic building blocks for “SOARing” to new heights of success in work, love & life!)
1. STOP what you are doing and notice the thoughts you are thinking and how they are making you feel. If you are feeling really uptight or anxious, take at least 5 deep breaths to short circuit your primal brain’s “Alarm” reaction and avoid what is commonly called a “neural highjack.”You may want to check out head scans for more.
2. OBSERVE the way you are looking at your situation. What is it about how you are looking at this “problem” that makes you feel the way you do? Imagine yourself up high in the air looking down on your situation and notice how by elevating your perspective, it can alter how you see the “problem” and with it, expanding the options for resolving it.
3. ASK yourself how the wisest person you know views your circumstances? What’s the valuable lesson this situation has to teach you? (And believe me, every uncomfortable emotion and difficult situation has something of great value to teach us.) Remember, we prove we are smart by our answers, but wise by our questions. The more you can embrace curiosity, the wiser you will become.
4. REFRAME your situation, keeping in mind that the thoughts you are thinking are not reality, just how your brain is processing it. How, by viewing this from a larger perspective, could you see the “problem” in a whole new light? Focus on what you can do, not on what you can’t.
5. RESPOND intentionally to your situation (as distinct from just reacting in the way you may have habitually done in the past). What is the most constructive way to respond to this situation?
Repeat process as often as necessary. (Note: This process, or a variation thereof, will be necessary for at least the next 50 years).